Welcome to weConnect

At Wevorce, our goal is to have a positive and lasting impact on the lives of couples, children, and eventually on the world. And we believe in the power of community to help us achieve this goal. We value your contributions to our site and encourage you to use our forum (referred to as “weConnect”) to interact with others. Because we want Wevorce to remain a safe and trustworthy source for our community, please ensure your posts and comments are:

Respectful

Keep in mind others are reading your posts at a time in their lives when sensitivity and respect are not just appreciated, but crucial. To maintain a safe environment on our forums, we ask our members to limit their comments to courteous language at all times. Any posts that include sexually explicit comments, hate-speech, prejudiced remarks, calls for boycott of any destination or business, threats, or profanity will be removed. We reject posts that advocate or describe participation in illegal activities and those containing graphic descriptions of death, injuries or violent criminal acts. We only allow posts written by users 18 or older.

We also respect your privacy and the privacy of everyone who engages in conversations on the forum. For this reason, any posts containing personal or private information will also be removed. This includes both the user’s information and the information of others that shouldn’t be shared online (such as a person’s date of birth, social security numbers, addresses, phone numbers, financial details, etc.). Please be cautious when posting any personal contact details to our forums and be advised that we will remove these details upon request of the poster.

Relevant

Keep your forum posts relevant to the original post. Please don’t include personally insulting language, smear campaigns, or any personal opinions about political, ethical, religious, or wider social issues. If you would like to suggest we cover a topic in greater depth on the Wevorce blog, please email editor@wevorce.com. Solicitations of a business or personal nature will be removed. If you have a question or comment for Wevorce about our forum moderation policies or there is an issue with your account, contact us at forum@wevorce.com.

Civil

Nothing sabotages a healthy conversation like rudeness. So please:

  • Be civil. Don’t post anything that a reasonable person would consider offensive, abusive, or hate speech.
  • Keep it clean. Don’t post anything obscene or sexually explicit.
  • Respect each other. Don’t harass or grief anyone, impersonate people, or expose their private information.
  • Respect our forum. Don’t post spam or otherwise vandalize the forum.

These are not concrete terms with precise definitions — avoid even the appearance of any of these things. If you’re unsure, ask yourself how you would feel if your post was featured on the front page of the New York Times. This is a public forum, and search engines index these discussions. Keep the language, links, and images safe for family and friends.

Productive

The conversations we have here set the tone for everyone. Help us influence the future of this community by always working to improve the discussion in some way, however small. If you are not sure your post adds to the conversation, think over what you want to say and try again later.

The topics discussed here matter to us, and we want you to act as if they matter to you, too. Be respectful of the topics and the people discussing them, even if you disagree with some of what is being said. Engage in discussions that make this forum an interesting place to be and avoid those that do not.

You may wish to respond to something by disagreeing with it. That’s fine. But, remember to criticize ideas, not people. Please avoid:

  • Name-calling.
  • Ad hominem attacks.
  • Responding to a post’s tone instead of its actual content.
  • Knee-jerk contradiction.

Instead, provide reasoned counter-arguments that improve the conversation. One way to improve the discussion is by discovering ones that are already happening. Please spend some time browsing the topics here before replying or starting your own, and you’ll have a better chance of meeting others who share your interests.

Non-commercial

Wevorce is intended to provide advice for individuals considering divorce, going through a divorce, or navigating life post-divorce, not to advertise a service or business. Posts that are being offered in exchange for personal gain, such as gifts, services, or money, will be removed. We reserve the right to reject specific content for any reason. Links to external websites, such as attorney websites or personal blogs, that are not relevant to the topic and are used purely for promotional purposes will be removed. We reserve the right to reject any URL for any reason. Survey requests, polls, or requests for research, as well as any spam will also be removed. If you suspect a post is fraudulent, please flag it as spam.

Original

We invite you to provide us with your most genuine and accurate advice – just make sure it’s your advice! Forum posts should contain original content and not include extensive quotes from other sources. You may not post anything digital that belongs to someone else without permission. You may not post descriptions of, links to, or methods for stealing someone’s intellectual property (software, video, audio, images), or for breaking any other law. Content plagiarized from other websites, reviews, emails, or printed materials will be removed. Attempts to impersonate other members or Wevorce moderators or any reproduction of private correspondence with Wevorce staff will also be removed.

Easy to Read

Help other users get the most of your post by using the language of the forum where you are posting. Please don’t use HTML tags, excessive ALL CAPS or emoticons, or slang. Any content that is posted multiple times will be removed so please post in the appropriate forum thread only once.

Tidy

Make the effort to put things in the right place, so that we can spend more time discussing and less cleaning up. So:

  • Don’t start a topic in the wrong category.
  • Don’t cross-post the same thing in multiple topics.
  • Don’t post no-content replies.
  • Don’t divert a topic by changing it midstream.
  • Don’t sign your posts — every post has your profile information attached to it.

Rather than posting “+1” or “Agreed”, use the Like button. Rather than taking an existing topic in a radically different direction, use Reply as a Linked Topic.

Discourse provides tools that enable the community to collectively identify the best (and worst) contributions: favorites, bookmarks, likes, flags, replies, edits, and so forth. Use these tools to improve your own experience, and everyone else’s, too.

Powered by You

This site is operated by your friendly local staff and you, the community. If you have any further questions about how things should work here, open a new topic in the site feedback category and let’s discuss! If there’s a critical or urgent issue that can’t be handled by a meta topic or flag, contact us via the staff page.

Terms of Service

Yes, legalese is boring, but we must protect ourselves – and by extension, you and your data – against unfriendly folks. We have a Terms of Service describing your (and our) behavior and rights related to content, privacy, and laws. To use this service, you must agree to abide by our TOS.

If You See a Problem, Flag It

Moderators have special authority; they are responsible for this forum. But so are you. With your help, moderators can be community facilitators, not just janitors or police.

When you see bad behavior, don’t reply. It encourages the bad behavior by acknowledging it, consumes your energy, and wastes everyone’s time. Just flag it. If enough flags accrue, action will be taken, either automatically or by moderator intervention.

In order to maintain our community, Wevorce reserves the right to remove any content (links, text, or images) we deem inappropriate and/or any user account for any reason at any time. If any member violates any of the above guidelines, we reserve the right to ban the individual from further participation in the weCommunity. Moderators and site operators do not preview new posts and therefore take no responsibility for any content posted by the community.

Use these guidelines to keep this a productive place for civilized public discourse. Thank you for joining us in changing divorce for good!

Our regards,
The Wevorce Team