When Wevorce conducted their survey, the holidays were upon us. One of the questions was whether or not the person considering separation and/or divorcing their spouse, would broach the subject during or after the holiday season. The majority (two-thirds) said they would wait until after the holidays. Women seemed slightly more likely to postpone the conversation than the men.
Those surveyed who chose to wait until after the holidays to ask for a divorce reported they would do so for the following reasons: they didn’t want to ruin the holidays; didn’t want to stress the family more; or even, having waited this long already, they reasoned what’s a few more weeks? For the other third surveyed, they opted to say something before the holidays and their reasons ranged from the sooner the better; don’t want to go into the holidays so miserable; or I just need to get it over with. And there was a small percentage, a hair over 2 percent, who would actually prefer to have that divorce talk during the holidays. Do you think there is a card for that?
Joking aside, the holidays are stressful all on their own and adding the unhappiness factor into the mix makes it doubly so. Families with children need to take extra care with how and when to approach separation or divorce at this time of year. Be honest with yourself; do you want the association of divorce and the holidays in your future or your kids’? Or, is the fighting so bad that it’s best for everyone to not put it off any longer?
Of course, these are just a few of many concerns when making the tough decision to divorce. And, in the end, it is a choice you alone will have to make. Whatever stage in the divorce process you are in, there are some things you can do to help you and your kids have a happy holiday.
