Community vs Separate Property

Author: Wevorce Staff

Community vs Separate Property

What belongs to who? You’ve said I do and now you have his and her towels, maybe even his and her closets, but what about the rest of it? What must you share, what is your own? First, it depends on where you live: in a community property state, or in an equitable distribution state. […]

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Kids And Allowances: Part 2

Should an allowance be divided into spending, saving, and giving categories? It’s not carved in stone, but it could be an excellent opportunity for your child to learn the importance and consequences of how they spend their money, the gratification of saving their money, and the benefits of giving to others who are in need. […]

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Fido And Fluffy: Family Or Property?

It’s becoming more common to see custody battles over the family pets these days, but for the most part, the courts and prevailing judges look at our furry kids as property, not family. They are to be divvied up like our possessions— you get the flat screen TV and I get the dog. And that’s […]

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Three Ways To Let Go After Divorce

“I’ve learned that when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock somewhere else.” ~Andy Rooney There is a hard truth in these words, one that is difficult for many to take to heart. Yet, unless you let go of destructive, obsessive emotions, there is no forward movement in life. You will stagnate— even drown— in a […]

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What is Collaborative Divorce?

“To collaborate is defined as to work jointly on an activity, especially to produce or create something, and ‛to work with the enemy.’” — Wikipedia and Webster’s New World Dictionary “Collaborative Law is a voluntary, non-adversarial, problem-solving approach to solving legal disputes.” — J. Kim Wright, author of Lawyers as Peacemakers Many divorce lawyers have […]

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Help! I’m Married To A Workaholic

Workaholics come in many forms, but it generally is not a curable condition, unless the workaholic tendency is tied to a one-time project only. Since workaholics tend to dive head first into solving puzzles, you probably saw signs of this trait early in your relationship. However, you likely saw these traits as strengths when you […]

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All’s Fair In Love And War

Or is it? Even in warfare, there are rules. So what are the rules when it comes to love? Our favorite psychologist of daytime TV, Dr. Phil, has said, “How you argue— especially how you end an argument— can determine the long-term success or failure of your relationship.” He explains, “Disagreements are going to occur. […]

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Keeping Life Normal For My Kids

Normal in one family might be very different from normal in another. What your kids are used to and how your specific family handles change in general are key factors in determining what your kids need to maintain a sense of normalcy and security during divorce. As divorcing parents, you two need to focus on […]

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Valentine's day single mom

Being A Single Mom On Valentine’s Day

Even when I was a happily married mom (well, maybe not so happily at the end, but married nonetheless), Valentine’s Day was one of my least favorite holidays. It always seemed so forced and contrived. It was as if the card, candy, flowers and fancy dinner merchants of the world cast a spell on men […]

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Divorce And Your Friends

Divorce And Your Friends Lisa Arends, author, wellness coach and math teacher, writes about friends in her Huffington Post article, “The 8 Types of Friends You Need During Divorce.” These are the friends who survived your divorce, the ones who didn’t bolt during the emotional upheaval, the ones you should appreciate and hold dearly. Ms. […]

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What Is A Codependent Marriage?

What is codependency as it relates to marriage? Well, to keep it light, if you are dying but see someone else’s life pass before your eyes, you may be codependent. In other words, codependency is when you have lost sight of your own life as a result of your total focus on someone else. This […]

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Are You One Of Those Annoying Parents?

Is there such a thing as a proud parent who over shares info? Absolutely. According to Heather Morgan Shott in her post on Parents.com, 10 Annoying Things Every Parent Does (But Never Admits to), many of us who are parents are guilty as charged, but will never fess up. Despite promises we would never be […]

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Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater?

Is it possible for a couple to overcome the betrayal of a cheating spouse and repair broken trust in a marriage? For many, it’s a black-and-white world, and the question above may show us how cheating is viewed in that world. It’s certainly true that many marriages end because of that belief. Infidelity is one […]

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Help: Spouse Still Loves The Ex

Just because a marriage ends in divorce, the life and family created as a couple cannot be erased like a chalkboard. Unlike calling a mulligan, the memories and emotions connected to an ex remain, despite the do over. Most of us have multiple relationships in our lives. The result is multiple life-buddies. Each one of […]

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Tackling Details During Divorce Mediation

What does divorce mediation need to address? So many details often get left out without a plan to cover not only the basics, but also concepts and plans to help keep agreements sustainable over time. Good mediation takes into account a historical perspective brought to the table by each person, and allows time to discuss […]

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Divorce in Connecticut

Please note: local and state laws change constantly. This information is for educational purposes only. We do our best to keep this up-to-date, but please contact us to discuss your unique situation. Getting Divorced in Connecticut A decree of dissolution of a marriage or a decree of legal separation will be granted upon a finding […]

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Groundbreaking Divorce Research to Inform the Process (and other Wevorce news)

From the beginning, our goals here at Wevorce have been focused on empowering families to work together to achieve a guided, respectful, and family-centered process. In fact, we are the first and only national online platform that removes the pain, time, and expense from divorce. And we are eager to announce new ways we’re sharing […]

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Divorce Directories

Find more links to divorce resources at the following sites: Visit the Top 100 Divorce-Related Websites!

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What Is Divorce?

Divorce is the term used as both a verb and a noun to describe the formal process of dissolving the contractual nature of a marriage. A divorce is when each person becomes restored to living as a separate individual, with no automatic requirements to share property, income, or debt. The reason divorce is more than […]

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Who’s Contemplating Divorce?

A new survey of married Americans conducted by Wevorce found that 1 in 8 women are currently considering separating from or divorcing their spouse; the equivalent ratio for men is just 1 in 25. The online survey of 558 people was conducted Nov 18-22, 2013. 51 percent of respondents were men; 49 percent were women. […]

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Financial Dos And Don’ts, Part III

The grim reality of post-divorce life can be difficult. Here are some dos and don’ts for handling finances after the divorce. Do: Create a post-divorce financial plan. Now is not the time to stop thinking about finances, it’s probably the most important time to consider them. Often, divorce means a change in lifestyle, as the […]

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81 Years Together And Still Smiling!

Yes, you read it right. On November 25, 1932, Ann and John eloped, defying the bride’s father who planned to marry her to a man 20 years her senior. Her family scoffed and declared her impulsive marriage would never last, but the couple proved them wrong. Now they have earned the title “longest married couple” […]

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Dividing the Marital Home: Realizing Your Options

Determining what happens to your property during a divorce can be difficult. When discussing this issue, it is sometimes helpful to look at one state as an example. In New Jersey, marital property is divided “equitably“, which means fairly, not necessary equally. This usually includes anything acquired by either spouse throughout the course of the […]

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The Social Balancing Act During Divorce

Divorce has a tendency to suck the life from you— it can be a chore just to get out of bed each morning. You’re dealing with an overabundance of emotions; it’s likely not a time that you feel like being social. You may want to hide away, feel unable to face family and friends. This […]

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Finding Your Support System

Getting a divorce can be physically exhausting and frightening. It’s life-altering, filled with decision making and turbulent emotions. And, it’s not a journey you should take alone. Having a support system in place before, during and after can give you a consistent lifeline to pull you through even the most difficult divorce or separation. Here […]

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Using Reiki To Relieve Stress

Developed by a Japanese doctor in the 1920s, this energy healing modality is often recommended for people who are in the midst of emotional upheaval. The word itself means “universal life energy” in Japanese, and the practice involves a healing of the body’s energetic systems to restore a sense of balance and harmony to the […]

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What Is An Uncontested Divorce?

If a couple have determined that their marriage should end, and they can mutually agree on all points of a final settlement agreement, it’s considered an uncontested divorce. Issues that they must agree on generally include property and debt division, custody, and child or spousal support. In an uncontested divorce, there is no need for […]

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Sesame Street Offers Help During Divorce

Divorce is a tough subject to talk about with your children, and as parents you may not know where to start. What about visiting Sesame Street? Little Children, Big Challenges: Divorce provides the tools and information you will need when the time comes to tell your kids you are getting a divorce and more. They […]

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What Are Marital Assets And Debts?

When a couple marries, a form of contract is created that governs the possessions and financial obligations of the couple as a couple, not just as individuals. As rights to own property have changed over the years, and rights to engage in business have also changed, the underlying obligations and responsibilities of couples have also […]

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How Is Child Custody Decided?

For couples with children who are facing divorce, the scariest question of all might be, “Who gets the kids?” Before divorcing spouses auto-launch custody battles, it helps to understand how custody is determined by the courts. Almost all courts use a standard that considers the best interest of the children when deciding custody issues. The […]

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