Addiction: How to Help Yourself if Your Spouse’s Drinking Affects your Marriage
Like other addictions, alcoholism can lead to divorce. If your spouse’s drinking is negatively affecting your marriage, it is wise to address the issue as soon as possible. Here are tips on how to get help for yourself and spouse.
1. No excuses.
Don’t make excuses or cover up for the alcoholic. He or she needs to learn the consequences of drinking.
2. Step in.
Intervene with family and friends after an incident when your spouse is sober and calm.
3. Talk about your concerns.
Tell him or her why the drinking worries you. Tell him or her how it’s caused problems with family, friends, work and, most importantly, your marriage.
4. Talk about the consequences.
Tell your spouse they need help and if they don’t seek it, tell him or her what you plan to do. Don’t tell your spouse something you aren’t going to act on. If you say you’re going to file for divorce, mean it and do it. Otherwise, don’t bring it up.
5. Find help.
If your spouse admits he or she has a problem and wants help, help get it. Find out about local Alcoholics Anonymous meetings or counseling that may be offered through your employer, church or a community group.
